Saturday, September 19, 2009

What is a Bully?

Definition of a bully- A person who is habitually cruel or overbearing, especially to smaller or weaker people (well I am younger, but not weaker). Usually girls tend to bully as a group through social exclusion and the spreading of rumors (this is what she has been doing to me for about a year). Girls who would never bully individually will often take part in group bullying activities. (bingo)

Why do I blog about bullies? Well because I have one- at 31 years old, I have a bully. The difference this time is I am older, wiser and know not to let the bully hurt me. I know that words are only words and that a bully tries to make themselves feel better by putting others down. They don't care who they hurt on their way! Unfortunately my bully is trying to hurt my kids as well. She has spoken horribly about them.

Funny thing, in knowing The Secret, I know that she is only bringing ill words onto herself. I feel bad for this person. I know she must have poor self-esteem. I have watched her bully others. Funny thing, she was bullied as a teen. Maybe children who are bullied feel that they must bully others.

I am trying hard to figure out why she feels threatened by me, since I have only shown love, support and caring towards her and her adventures.

Today I am grateful for...
my husband (who has been bullied as well)
my children (I wish they never have to go through this)
my family (who are always there)
my mother in law and father in law
knowing that I am strong and can handle this
great weather for our house to be worked on
being a guest designer at STM
creating my new challenge blog
teaching a wonderful class
time to put all my Stampin up stamps together so I can use them
my new products from Stampin up
self worth
self confidence
knowing that God truly knows what type of people we are and knowing he appreciates who I am and what I do on a daily basis
you, for reading my blog

Thanks for listening!


Tonia_and_boys_Inc. said...

thanks for sharing, jennifer. bullying is just awful, and so hard to deal with. good luck to you, and it sounds as though you are on top of it. i love your little gratefulness list :) :) very sweet...always nice to reflect on things for which we are grateful when we're in a tough place or situation.

Jessica Wilson said...

I think we've all been there..with bullies, but as we get older we know how to handle it better:) I like your grateful list!! Love, Jess

Julie Tucker-Wolek said...

*sigh* i'm so sorry U are going thru this.....this makes me sad.....i too am going thru something like this right now....but wait makes me happy is that u are still seeing the things that u are grateful for in life.....{{{hugs}}} :):):):):):)):):):):):):):)

Anonymous said...

we definitely have all been there with bullies-it's definitely better that we are all older and wiser-unfortunately they are only hurting themselves. there is always the light at the end of the tunnel-you seem to have the way paved right and will get through it.

what a wonderful list-thanks for sharing and enjoy your sunday!


Kim said...

Your post hit home with me. You have a very healthy perspective. I am glad you know The Secret. :)

Toni said...

Hey Jennifer.... you think that behavior goes away when you leave school.... but unfortunately it doesn't and then it involves not only you but those most important to you, your family or children. Pray for this individual, it takes much more effort to be ugly than nice. Hang in there... :)

Toni said...

Hi Jennifer. You would think this behavior is just school daze stuff, but obviously it's not... Pray for this person, it is so much harder to be ugly than not. It's funny how the very things that hurt us in our lives, we sometimes choose to do to others. Go figure. I think your focus on gratefulness deserves a scrapbook layout... hang in there :)

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